22-29, not the time for long term relationships. They are throwing their life away IMO. We are getting older, we should get children when we are older.
Women can still get children up until 40 or so.
The best solution would be women accepting that men should not be the biggest earner anymore. No woman wants to work while having her man at home, this should change.
My wife is a doctor and she married me for my good looks. She is definitely a pretty big outlier according to relationship research,
haha, just kidding. I have a graduate degree and I'm planning to go back for my PhD once our kids start school. She told me early on how hard it was to find someone that was both educated and compatible with her personality. It probably had a lot to do with her falling for me as quickly as she did. I'm thankful everyday that I thought just as much of her as she did me and that we found each other.
Looks like she adjusted her expectations to the realities of the dating market. Good for her and you.My wife is a doctor and she married me for my good looks. She is definitely a pretty big outlier according to relationship research,
haha, just kidding. I have a graduate degree and I'm planning to go back for my PhD once our kids start school. She told me early on how hard it was to find someone that was both educated and compatible with her personality. It probably had a lot to do with her falling for me as quickly as she did. I'm thankful everyday that I thought just as much of her as she did me and that we found each other.
I think there are real stats showing how difficult it is for men online; one of those OK Cupid or Match studies, I think. Either way, I do hear about women complaining about a lack of qualified men, however, I do think that many of them have their standards set way too high. The way it is now, no one wins, and everyone is single and miserable, well, I guess alpha males and women just looking for sex win.
I have colleagues that are dealing with this. 30-something, doctorate level and high paid working professionals that can't find a suitable partner. It's rough for these ladies.
This is the same thing that's happening all over the world right?
I have colleagues that are dealing with this. 30-something, doctorate level and high paid working professionals that can't find a suitable partner. It's rough for these ladies.
This is the same thing that's happening all over the world right?
The article actually talks about the religion (Mormon and Jewish) dating sector. I don't know. Maybe as technology advances, there's less of a reason to still be religious?
I ask why are women more keen to organized religion?
"Statistically speaking, an atheist meeting may be one of the best places for single women to meet available men."
How did such a huge gap in education even happen?
There's no way this went unnoticed...
Men had always more options in the labor market outside of traditional higher learning.
This jobs have the ones have been reduced significantly over the last few decades due to America becoming a service economy and technology.
Women, on the hand, held jobs that traditional required higher learning--teaching, nursing, social work etc. And educational requirements for those have gotten higher.
So men haven't adapted to the changing market fast enough?
That and women have traditionally pursued jobs that require higher learning as the base educational requirement.
As degrees become more common, getting one is the minimum for them to enter the labor market.
Men still have greater options outside of traditional education (trades, police and firefighters, military are still heavily male dominated), but those are disappearing due to outsourcing and technology.
but you're talking about a trend that has been going on for decades... if the pool of available jobs that don't require a degree has shrunk, and men who would have otherwise done these jobs aren't going to college.. where are they getting their jobs from?
ok, so it's not that these men are unemployed, it's just that they hold jobs that are considered less attractive to college educated women?
Wtf is this?the harsh truth is they need to change what they're looking for then,
And wtf is thisor change themselves to make themselves more attractive to the suitable partners out there.
truck driving, logistics, construction, trades, airline pilots, mining, police and fire, military, etc.
That's correct.
Wtf is this?
"i've been right here the whole time, give us nice guys a chance!"
And wtf is this
There are enough body image problems as it is
So there should also be a large group of men that aren't able to find a partner because of their job?
Wtf is this?
"i've been right here the whole time, give us nice guys a chance!"
It's a numbers game. There are not enough educated eligible men compared to the educated eligible women. And trends show that women are less likely to marry down in status.
If there's a sizeable population of women that can't find a partner, there's a similarly sizeable population of men (somewhere on the socioeconomic ladder) that can't find a partner too.
This isn't China.
So men haven't adapted to the changing market fast enough?
You're missing the point. It's easier for those men to find partners because of asymmetrical preferences in the dating market.
We're misunderstanding each other. There's a pretty close to even split between the total number of women and men in any given age group.
We can ask if perhaps something else may be going on (such as men marrying outside their age group thereby "stealing" women from other generations) but before doing that we need to agree that if there's a problem finding a partner in a closed system, it should be affecting both sexes roughly equally.
Wtf is this?
"i've been right here the whole time, give us nice guys a chance!"
And wtf is this
There are enough body image problems as it is
Wtf is this?
"i've been right here the whole time, give us nice guys a chance!"
And wtf is this
There are enough body image problems as it is
22-29, not the time for long term relationships. They are throwing their life away IMO. We are getting older, we should get children when we are older.
Women can still get children up until 40 or so.
Wtf is this?
"i've been right here the whole time, give us nice guys a chance!"
And wtf is this
There are enough body image problems as it is
What I wrote is applicable to anyone who can't find a suitable partner.
Change what you're looking for, or change yourself both, even. Or stay single.
It doesn't have anything to do with body image or nice guys or whatever other inferences you made from my post.
Wtf is this?
"i've been right here the whole time, give us nice guys a chance!"
And wtf is this
There are enough body image problems as it is
What I wrote is applicable to anyone who can't find a suitable partner.
Change what you're looking for, or change yourself both, even. Or stay single.
It doesn't have anything to do with body image or nice guys or whatever other inferences you made from my post.
But you're looking at the issue too broadly.
The thesis here is the availability of college educated men.
Non college educated men still have options because there are non college educated women as well.
College educated women are less likely than their male peers to marry down.
So college educated women are competing amongst themselves and women without college educations, creating the imbalance in eligible partners.
It's not equal. At all.
We're misunderstanding each other. There's a pretty close to even split between the total number of women and men in any given age group.
We can ask if perhaps something else may be going on (such as men marrying outside their age group thereby "stealing" women from other generations) but before doing that we need to agree that if there's a problem finding a partner in a closed system, it should be affecting both sexes roughly equally.
Gonna be honest, I wouldn't consider seriously dating a dude who lacked a college education. Unless he was a genius and didn't obtain a college degree in order to pursue something worthwhile.
What if you had chemistry and he was business owner without a degree?
Debatable. They are usually failures in all aspects of life, but there's probably no consensus on internet caricatures so I won't insist on this.Uh, traditional "nice guys" usually have college education and actually have better odds, internet caricatures and memes aside.
In any case, whatever group it is that lacks the preferred/sought trait, is not entitled to attention.It's the traditional macho dudes, in traditional male professions that are getting ignored.
This really gets under my skin. It is okay for women to have standards regarding height, income, and education, but if a man even mentions a woman's weight, all hell breaks lose.
What I wrote is applicable to anyone who can't find a suitable partner.
Change what you're looking for, or change yourself both, even. Or stay single.
It doesn't have anything to do with body image or nice guys or whatever other inferences you made from my post.
You're right, my special little snowflake. Never change. Never improve. Just force everyone else to change instead.
Educated women are plenty attractive as they are. To say that they owe the world even more, is madness.I mean, it'd be nice if beauty standards changed, but you gotta change what you can change if you wanna play the game.
See: every self help gaf thread where ppl are like "go to the gym"
Debatable. They are usually failures in all aspects of life, but there's probably no consensus on internet caricatures so I won't insist on this.
In any case, whatever group it is that lacks the preferred/sought trait, is not entitled to attention.
Educated women are plenty attractive as they are. To say that they owe the world even more, is madness.
The asymmetry of the situation doesn't lend itself well to being viewed as a closed system.
The issue at hand is that women with college degrees are only willing to date men with college degrees, where men with college degrees are far more willing to date "down". Men and women without degrees are still dating and getting married, even without their degrees.
The true crux of the issue is that there aren't enough college educated men to sate the demand being placed on to the dating market by college educated women. The answer is to either get more men educated or to have women lower their standards.
But you're looking at the issue too broadly.
The thesis here is the availability of college educated men.
Non college educated men still have options because there are non college educated women as well.
College educated women are less likely than their male peers to marry down.
So college educated women are competing amongst themselves and women without college educations, creating the imbalance in eligible partners.
It's not equal. At all.