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Why Did You Cheat? Two Exes Confront Each Other About Infidelity

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snake fish

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backslashbunny said:
Lol hopefully you're not fucking a side chick that name begins with B who lives close to you because then I know who you and her are.
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AlexBasch

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Entered the thread expecting to read hundreds of posts of "fuck cheating people" (something I agree with) and got a great twist instead.

S u b b e d.
 
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Fuchsdh

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TheOfficeMut said:
You're being naïve. There are chemical responses and your brain changes in so many ways that it becomes difficult to leave just because it's the obvious thing to do. There are things going on in your brain that affect your decisions that you have no control over.

It's actually pretty shitty to say that it's "on you" to people who want to leave an abusive relationship but find it extremely difficult or nearly impossible to. It's not black and white. Just because you may have found it easy to do does not mean everyone else does.
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Chemicals don't excuse your actions or inactions. We are capable of executing self-restraint, rational thinking, and control.

There are no kids here, no indication that she's financially dependent on this guy, or any such mitigating factors to explain her stance. Her worst enemy is herself here, and at some point she doesn't garner any more sympathy for associating with him after he's been an ass repeatedly.

"But it's haarrrrdd" is a terrible excuse, always will be.
 
The Lamonster

The Lamonster

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I gotta say GAF, my life is currently in ruin. I recently discovered my wife had been having an affair with a coworker for 1.5 years. I found out, kicked her out of the house and we're probably going to get divorced. We have a 2 year-old (yes, she started an affair when we had a ~6 month-old) so it sucks even more.

This thread has made me feel a little better. I've been sticking to my guns about us being done forever but it's not easy...it's hard to let go even when you've been treated like shit. Good to hear that's normal.
 
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ant_

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The Lamonster said:
I gotta say GAF, my life is currently in ruin. I recently discovered my wife had been having an affair with a coworker for 1.5 years. I found out, kicked her out of the house and we're probably going to get divorced. We have a 2 year-old (yes, she started an affair when we had a ~6 month-old) so it sucks even more.

This thread has made me feel a little better. All the hate for cheaters. No forgiving them, etc. I've been sticking to my guns about it but it's not easy...it's hard to let go even when you've been treated like shit. Good to hear that's normal.
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Condolences man. The hardest thing to come to terms with is that it's not your fault. I spent so long trying to answer the following question about my ex: Why? I couldn't understand why she'd do it. Some people are just selfish. I encourage you to stay strong through it; find someone that deserves and values your commitment.

I also recommend therapy if possible. It helps a lot.
 
The Lamonster

The Lamonster

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ant_ said:
Condolences man. The hardest thing to come to terms with is that it's not your fault. I spent so long trying to answer the following question about my ex: Why? I couldn't understand why she'd do it. Some people are just selfish. I encourage you to stay strong through it; find someone that deserves and values your commitment.

I also recommend therapy if possible. It helps a lot.
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Thanks. My second session is actually next week.
 
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Steeped in a Sea of Games

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Phatosaurus said:
I do realise that will complicate things, and I'll either have to stop or come clean. In which case, I'll stop seeing and speaking to other women.


Your armour is so shiny, do you buff and polish it daily?
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You are absolutely terrible. I would really love for her to see every single post you've made in this thread and then if she stayed with you, at least she'd only have herself to blame. I really hope you only type shit like this to get attention, because even though you'd still be awful, at least no one else would be getting hurt right now.

And this is coming from someone who's been with the same person for over 15 years without ever cheating once, so yes, my armor is very shiny, you miserable, pathetic little person.
 
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Omega Kirby

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People throwing away what seems to be a great Girlfriend/Boyfriend that many wished to have, while some people like me struggle to even get a first date without being stood up
 
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NightwingRebirth

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The Lamonster said:
I gotta say GAF, my life is currently in ruin. I recently discovered my wife had been having an affair with a coworker for 1.5 years. I found out, kicked her out of the house and we're probably going to get divorced. We have a 2 year-old (yes, she started an affair when we had a ~6 month-old) so it sucks even more.

This thread has made me feel a little better. I've been sticking to my guns about us being done forever but it's not easy...it's hard to let go even when you've been treated like shit. Good to hear that's normal.
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Sorry to hear about that, man. Hope you and your child are holding out okay.
 
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Armadilo

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Omega Kirby said:
People throwing away what seems to be a great Girlfriend/Boyfriend that many wished to have, while some people like me struggle to even get a first date without being stood up
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At the same time, learn about this stuff and don't do it. Be the best that you can be
 
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DontBeThatGuy

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The Lamonster said:
I gotta say GAF, my life is currently in ruin. I recently discovered my wife had been having an affair with a coworker for 1.5 years. I found out, kicked her out of the house and we're probably going to get divorced. We have a 2 year-old (yes, she started an affair when we had a ~6 month-old) so it sucks even more.

This thread has made me feel a little better. I've been sticking to my guns about us being done forever but it's not easy...it's hard to let go even when you've been treated like shit. Good to hear that's normal.
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My brother cheated on his ex for 3-5 years, and I'm still trying to wrap my head around how to feel about his lying ass. (he's got a kid with the other girl now)
 
The Lamonster

The Lamonster

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NightwingRebirth said:
Sorry to hear about that, man. Hope you and your child are holding out okay.
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Thanks. The kid is okay. We switch her off every couple days. My estranged wife is a good mother to her, aside from forever shattering her way of life and denying her the luxury of having both parents around full-time ever again.

DontBeThatGuy said:
My brother cheated on his ex for 3-5 years, and I'm still trying to wrap my head around how to feel about his lying ass. (he's got a kid with the other girl now)
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That's so fucked up. Especially when the betrayed partner is a good catch, like this girl in the video, or me. I was a great husband.
 
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Vazduh

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Phatosaurus said:
I recognise that makes me a hypocrite, but in all honesty, if I found out she slept with another man then I would leave her.
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I know this is none of my business and I should refrain from commenting, but...WOW. The level of hypocrisy in here is insane. I feel bad for your girlfriend, unless she's also seeing someone on the side.
 
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flintstryker

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Omega Kirby said:
People throwing away what seems to be a great Girlfriend/Boyfriend that many wished to have, while some people like me struggle to even get a first date without being stood up
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One thing you and I believe a quite a few posters in this thread here don't seem to realized is that no matter how beautiful someone is whether male or female there's always gonna be someone who isn't necessarily all that into them. So you might see it as some guy throwing away a good relationship but to that guy it probably didn't meant all that much in the first place.
 
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Dreams-Visions

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The Lamonster said:
I gotta say GAF, my life is currently in ruin. I recently discovered my wife had been having an affair with a coworker for 1.5 years. I found out, kicked her out of the house and we're probably going to get divorced. We have a 2 year-old (yes, she started an affair when we had a ~6 month-old) so it sucks even more.

This thread has made me feel a little better. I've been sticking to my guns about us being done forever but it's not easy...it's hard to let go even when you've been treated like shit. Good to hear that's normal.
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Damn. Really sorry to hear that fam. I can't even imagine.
 
Mitch

Mitch

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Phatosaurus said:
Cheating on my girlfriend throughout the last two year is the main reason we're still together.
She's a great girl, great sense of humour and personality, but we don't see each other enough and when we do our sex life is pretty drab,

Sleeping with other women behind her back just came naturally to me.
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How does it feel being a complete piece of shit?
 
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