So if you find out that they are trans and break up with them are you transphobic?
If you break up because she is infertile : no
If you break up because after years on a relationship she still didn't trust you with telling about their past : no
If you break up because deep down you believe that they are really man : yes
It is like i said before.... if you believe that "deep down a black person is a monkey" than you are a racist no matter how good you treat black people.
And yes, there are LOTS of papers on racism and black slavery made in the time that it was normal to defend it that points that blacks are closer to monkeys than humans....
It was normal by then ... people could not control their prejudice =P
On a related note, my country has a law being voted to make different bathroms for transgender people.....
Honestly, having gone through all of this thread earlier today for modding purposes, I found it pretty hard to judge what is and isn't allowed. You want to get rid of the bigots, but on the other hand, you don't want to get the ones who legitimately just don't know/understand and say dumb shit because of that.
How about a timed pinned topic about the gaf polices on that ?
Explaining everything everyone must know and stuffs like that .... would be educational and will help to make the next baning more black and white and less grey
Telling then on the faq that "gaf has a huge gay and trans community so be polite" seens to not working very well =P
So let me get this straight.
She does NOT disclose that information to someone because, well, that's an admittance so to speak of not being a woman in every sense of the word.
No, people do not want to disclose traumatic and hated moments of their lifes .... she does not disclose that information because she HATES that time.
I know some people that barely recognize their past selfs in older pics and actualy destroy then for no memory of that time =P
If the information ISN'T disclosed and I discover while getting down and dirty, and have an adverse reaction that may or may not lead to a breakup.... I'm transphobic?
This sentence is not exactly explained ... is your adverse reaction because she had a bad surgery or because she said ?
If is the first, no ... completly normal, unless you live in a world where all vaginas must look the same, then you have some small version of the "sharp kness" disease
If she has a good surgery and you discover in any other way (like she says) ...there is a huge chance on being transphobic, since it would prove that in your brain, you think that transgirls = cismales (using the cis with non trans people since that gaffer questioned the use of "trans")
She was NEVER a male, because that would mean that her brain changed.
And if you believe that being XY means "male" on biology ... you don't know ANYTHING about biology.
...seriously ... i will give you the pleasure of googling how the sex diferentiation of a platypus works ... mostly because if i wrote it here people would not believe me ! Yes, it makes being a mammal with poison and lay eggs being completly normal =P
So in essence, its wrong to NOT want to be with someone based on their previous identity? Serious question.
Yes, unless she was a serial killer that escaped prision or something extreme on that sense
If a girl used to love Hello Kitty and now hates it ... why base your feelings on her that she is a Hello Kitty lover ?
And if I AM transphobic, what do I do to fix that?
A good start would be being a better human being xD
Reading wikipedia links (books are better, but who am i kidding ? =P) about transgender, queer theory, gender theory and sex diferences are a good place to start
If you want to get more advance, texts by transfeminists are also awesome. I would recomend to start with
these 4 essays by Julia Serano (wich is trans herself, if you want to know =P), specialy the second one, that explains why the media is doing a VERY bad job with transgirls