Etrian Oddity
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And she reschedules again.
I have the worst fucking luck with women in the whole goddamned world.
I have the worst fucking luck with women in the whole goddamned world.
Just be glad you're in a better position than me.And she reschedules again.
I have the worst fucking luck with women in the whole goddamned world.
And she reschedules again.
I have the worst fucking luck with women in the whole goddamned world.
Why not try and take a closer look at what they're doing, saying, and look for cues like body language. Sometimes subtle stuff like having good posture and speaking slightly louder than anyone in a room can make you the most attractive dude in the lot.
You have these friends. Ask them for help.
Good looks aren't everything. I've been told by loads of girls that I'm good looking, but you know what? I didn't get anywhere back when I lacked confidence. Nights when I'm feeling low-key? I don't get attention because I don't put in the effort. (This is also where not being outcome-dependent comes in handy!)
You can't coast on good looks if you're socially awkward or low-energy. Stop using this as an excuse.
You're also ignoring their behaviours. Instead of chalking it up to their looks, why not examine their behaviours? Compare your behaviours to theirs. IIRC, you've even said you're a confident, good looking guy. Maybe you're falling flat somewhere?
If you'd like one of my cliche analogies, think of these guys as a video game company like Epic. Sure, they make pretty games, but the real things that Epic money are smart design choices, they license out their tech, and, amongst many other things, they have a great marketing budget. If you're supposed to be business analyst and you dismiss Epic's success in part to making pretty games, I'd never believe anything you say. Why? Because you clearly don't know what makes them successful; you've not analysed anything past a superficial level. The same is true here.
Maybe it's the way these guys dress. Maybe it's the way they talk. Maybe it's because they focus on having fun. Maybe it's because they know how to address any given audience. Maybe it's because they make girls feel welcome instead of uncomfortable. Maybe it's because they're making lots of eye contact.
You won't know if it's any of these things until you start analysing their success on a deeper level. Dismissing them just because of their good looks makes you seem like a sore loser. I'd tell the same thing to any of my friends if they said the same thing. I'd be all, "Dude, smarten up. You're better than this. What can you learn from them?"
Just be glad you're in a better position than me.
I am quite literally nowhere, and the hole I'm in is getting deeper and deeper.
Some of you guys need to learn to channel your inner smart asses and comedians if you don't feel like you're that slick in other departments. Hilarious banter is always a plus. My first boyfriend wasn't suave at all but he was funny. I wanted to spend time with him because he constantly made me laugh.
You won't know if it's any of these things until you start analysing their success on a deeper level. Dismissing them just because of their good looks makes you seem like a sore loser. I'd tell the same thing to any of my friends if they said the same thing. I'd be all, "Dude, smarten up. You're better than this. What can you learn from them?"
Some of you guys need to learn to channel your inner smart asses and comedians if you don't feel like you're that slick in other departments. Hilarious banter is always a plus.
All my "comedic" material is just me repeating shit I found on the internet but I make it sound like I'm making it up.What happens if you're just not funny at all? Then what?
Some of you guys need to learn to channel your inner smart asses and comedians if you don't feel like you're that slick in other departments. Hilarious banter is always a plus. My first boyfriend wasn't suave at all but he was funny. I wanted to spend time with him because he constantly made me laugh.
Only comedic material I have is humiliating myself. I have no confidence at all, but it works.
Only comedic material I have is humiliating myself. I have no confidence at all, but it works.
Losers can become winners.i think we need to realize that in life there are winners and losers. most of us are losers, and life for us is just about accepting that and finding a fat/ugly/mentally deficient girl with little to no standards who will be with us.
And she reschedules again.
I have the worst fucking luck with women in the whole goddamned world.
i think we need to realize that in life there are winners and losers. most of us are losers, and life for us is just about accepting that and finding a fat/ugly/mentally deficient girl with little to no standards who will be with us.
Losers can become winners.
And winners can become losers.
Some of the biggest winners in life were at one time total losers. What separates these people from the people who are still losers is that they never gave up on their goals and they learned from their fuck ups.
Also, if you say "I'm a loser" then you're right. If you say "I am a winner" or "I can become a winner" then you're right.
Your beliefs about yourself shape your perception of reality.
im a loser and theres no changing that. my best chance of love is probably settling for a wheelchair-bound girl.
im a loser and theres no changing that. my best chance of love is probably settling for a wheelchair-bound girl.
Okay then. That's your choice.im a loser and theres no changing that. my best chance of love is probably settling for a wheelchair-bound girl.
i think we need to realize that in life there are winners and losers. most of us are losers, and life for us is just about accepting that and finding a fat/ugly/mentally deficient girl with little to no standards who will be with us.
Okay then. That's your choice.
Have fun being miserable.
~only in death are we truly free~
Nobody liked my bad puns? Really?
/kicks dirt
22, sadly not in school anymore, and I don't really have any options.How old are you? Are you in school? What are your options for meeting women?
And she reschedules again.
I have the worst fucking luck with women in the whole goddamned world.
22, sadly not in school anymore, and I don't really have any options.
I was stuck in a rut in my final year of college, and I'm far worse now than I was then.
I barely ever went out during my college years, even though I always wanted to. But now I don't stand a chance of ever really enjoying life like I wanted to during college.
There's a hole inside me that'll never be filled.
Because a wheelchair-bound girl cant do better than someone who describes himself as a loser?im a loser and theres no changing that. my best chance of love is probably settling for a wheelchair-bound girl.
22, sadly not in school anymore, and I don't really have any options.
I was stuck in a rut in my final year of college, and I'm far worse now than I was then.
I barely ever went out during my college years, even though I always wanted to. But now I don't stand a chance of ever really enjoying life like I wanted to during college.
There's a hole inside me that'll never be filled.
I'm kind of where you were when you were still in school. I mean sure I wanna go out there and do all these great things but if no one invites me to do something then it's not like I can force them. I think you shouldn't internalize it so much, sometimes it's the way it is and you have to accept it.
That feel when you may have gotten your girlfriend pregnant even though she's on the pill.
That feel when this has happened to her before
edit: false alarm
Date tonight. Going to an intimate coffee place/hangout joint that has good live music. Any ideas on what to follow up with after coffee? It will be this evening, so what are good activities to do/places to go? Or should coffee just be enough?
Some of you guys need to learn to channel your inner smart asses and comedians if you don't feel like you're that slick in other departments. Hilarious banter is always a plus. My first boyfriend wasn't suave at all but he was funny. I wanted to spend time with him because he constantly made me laugh.
What happens if you're just not funny at all? Then what?
i think we need to realize that in life there are winners and losers. most of us are losers, and life for us is just about accepting that and finding a fat/ugly/mentally deficient girl with little to no standards who will be with us.
Losers can become winners.
And winners can become losers.
Some of the biggest winners in life were at one time total losers. What separates these people from the people who are still losers is that they never gave up on their goals and they learned from their fuck ups.
Also, if you say "I'm a loser" then you're right. If you say "I am a winner" or "I can become a winner" then you're right.
Your beliefs about yourself shape your perception of reality.
Dude, you're 22. Your life has BARELY started. Online dating, gym, live gigs, go meet people. How the hell do you think people who move to a new state or country are like?
Fuck, you people are depressing. I used to think like all of you. I hated it. I fucking HATED IT. And so do you or you wouldn't be here. Change you life. Find the easier spot to start, and improve it, then when that's good, start on another. I started by losing weight and I'm going great! I'll be the first one now to throw my self in the deep end. So suck it up and go fix yourself. "oh but the past blah blah im ugly blah blah", Too bad! People fuck things up, you will NEVER change it but you can change the future.
People in here need to learn how much other people like it when you talk to them. Seriously just talk to people. I know it can seem weird, but you get used to it. It makes life more interesting. I am not a very social person and typically prefer to be by myself. But when I want to do something and be social I just do it. What will likely eventually happen is you'll go out with some people to do something random one night and eventually you'll develop friendships the evolve into doing more stuff. This is how life works.
This place really is scary. I remember coming in a bit right after my breakup a few months ago. Feeling way better now. I'm not really seeing anyone, but it's rather irrelevant. The amount of doom and gloom around here about women is scary. I'm plenty miserable, but I will say it's not because I don't think I'll never find someone to be with. Mostly because I don't care about that. I'm stressed by school, my job search, and I'm still down that I don't have my ex to talk to sometimes, but the ridiculously low levels of self-confidence around here just because you're not going on "dates" is ridiculous.
Now I get why the thread has "being confident" in the title. I think the more important thing is getting the idea that you get "paired" out of so many people's heads. Relationships are about mutual attraction. It's compatibility. Not ranking. You can see that a ton of people don't get this just from the word choices used around here.
You're inspiring, Darklord. I bet your personal satisfaction from losing the weight comes through in making you out to be a much more confident guy!
Your attitude is definitely the right one. So many guys on here would benefit from just being more positive and setting goals. But at the same time it's not always about that. I've done all the things you talk about except online dating and my life has changed incrementally at best. Some things can actually end up setting you backwards a bit if you're not ready for it. Every guy here should try everything that has been said and for a lot of them it should work but at the same time don't expect miracles or 180 degree turns.
Because a wheelchair-bound girl cant do better than someone who describes himself as a loser?
yeah pretty much. not like she can step up the social ladder.
I talk to people all the time, I've had people who were around me comment on how sociable or witty I was when it came to talking to strangers but just because you have a conversation with someone doesn't necessarily mean they want anything more than that. I've talked to people all the time that I didn't want or need to hang out with like if they were older/younger or from a very different walk of life and I'm sure people I've talked to have felt the same way about me.
So what? You got a conversation out of it and met someone new. And who cares if they want more? The idea is to expand your horizons and learn more about people. If you're looking at everyone as a potential "bff" or romantic relationship it will just ruin it. Be yourself and try and learn about other people. You may even be underwhelmed more often than not, but the point is it is worth it when you meet new people.
Dude, you're 22. Your life has BARELY started. Online dating, gym, live gigs, go meet people. How the hell do you think people who move to a new state or country are like?
Fuck, you people are depressing. I used to think like all of you. I hated it. I fucking HATED IT. And so do you or you wouldn't be here. Change you life. Find the easier spot to start, and improve it, then when that's good, start on another. I started by losing weight and I'm going great! I'll be the first one now to throw my self in the deep end. So suck it up and go fix yourself. "oh but the past blah blah im ugly blah blah", Too bad! People fuck things up, you will NEVER change it but you can change the future.
22, sadly not in school anymore, and I don't really have any options.
I was stuck in a rut in my final year of college, and I'm far worse now than I was then.
I barely ever went out during my college years, even though I always wanted to. But now I don't stand a chance of ever really enjoying life like I wanted to during college.
There's a hole inside me that'll never be filled.
Meh, I imagine that being attractive is more important than you guys seem to think... I know it's not impossible, just that odds are stacked against. Especially with more attractive girls.
22, sadly not in school anymore, and I don't really have any options.
I was stuck in a rut in my final year of college, and I'm far worse now than I was then.
I barely ever went out during my college years, even though I always wanted to. But now I don't stand a chance of ever really enjoying life like I wanted to during college.
There's a hole inside me that'll never be filled.
Some of you guys need to learn to channel your inner smart asses and comedians if you don't feel like you're that slick in other departments. Hilarious banter is always a plus. My first boyfriend wasn't suave at all but he was funny. I wanted to spend time with him because he constantly made me laugh.
Haha No.
I'm cynical smart-ass in fairly non funny way. Even my brand of "humor" can be off putting outside of my friends. So I tend to keep my "jokes" to myself and all that's left is my pessimistic cynic.