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How many sexual partners for girls is too many?
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I don't listen to drake please post a spotify link to this song.
So true. If you want to get laid, stop wanting to get laid and just live your life.
Edit: I just realised my first and second sentences aren't really related, although it looks like they're supposed to be. I guess I could change my post but I'm a literary maverick, I just don't give a fuck. Well, obviously I cared enough to make this edit, but you get the idea. A restrained maverick, if you will.
Your experiences in college != everyone else's experiences in college.
Just because it was easy for you does not mean it was easy for others, and acting as if it will be easy for everyone is just ridiculous.
Edit: For the sake of clarity, note that I was responding in part to you and in part to the poster you quoted.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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If you wanna fuck a lot, that's cool.
If you don't wanna fuck a lot, that's cool.
If you wanna fuck someone who's fucked a lot, that's cool.
If you wanna fuck someone that hasn't fucked a lot, that's cool.
What's not cool is judging and/or mocking someone because of their personal preferences in partners (as long as they're not being idiots about expressing those preferences or judging and/or mocking people themselves), because it ultimately has shit exactly to do with you.
Seeing as how the OP hasn't even dropped back in, I'm starting to think this thread was created for the express purpose of starting shit.
If you don't wanna fuck a lot, that's cool.
If you wanna fuck someone who's fucked a lot, that's cool.
If you wanna fuck someone that hasn't fucked a lot, that's cool.
What's not cool is judging and/or mocking someone because of their personal preferences in partners (as long as they're not being idiots about expressing those preferences or judging and/or mocking people themselves), because it ultimately has shit exactly to do with you.
Seeing as how the OP hasn't even dropped back in, I'm starting to think this thread was created for the express purpose of starting shit.
Fonz72
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You can try to insult me if you want, but what you in fact said was "In the end though, it is a fact that by having such a narrow and selective attitude, you are most certainly depriving yourself of meeting amazing girls. Not only that, you might even be limiting your own growth." This implies that by being selective with who he hooks up with and having standards, he is limiting his growth. Go ahead and read it a couple times if you need to. Fucking girls you don't like does not make you a more mature person. Sure, you may wake up in the morning and realize that you met the most amazing person in the world, but odds are that ain't gonna happen.
What you replied to me with, actually sounds much better. My reply however was to what you orginally posted. So perhaps instead of critiquing my reading comprehension, focus instead on what you type. Use your words, tough guy.
perfectchaos007
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Basically, whatever your view is on how many or how few sexual partners someone can reasonably have, you can't be hypocritical about it. That's all.
I'm actually pretty impressed that it seems a majority of people here are just like 'meh, whatever'.
The real man will choose the right girl from the first to the third spot.
The girl could gain the experience on bed in so short time.
I... I don't know how. It's Trust Issues, wasn't on any of his studio records AFAIK. Slow "R&B" track.
Can Crusher
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Actually my post is clearly talking about the way you evaluate a woman, and not about sticking your dick in everything that moves. I didn't try to insult you, but you were so aggressive that clearly it was coming from a sensitive spot. Specially when you read what wasn't there, making me believe that either someone has or you have confronted yourself with it and didn't leave entirely convinced.
If I've only been with 4 women by the time I'm 30, but I had no specific criteria, then I wouldn't be narrow minded would I? I would just be somebody who doesn't want casual sex. Or someone who is unwanted of course, depending on how you look at it. Or simply someone who went from relationship to relationship by chance. It doesn't directly mean anything good or bad by default.
However if I tell you I only allow myself to meet women with huge tits, how does that not say something about my maturity? Hell we could always flip it, wouldn't it seem like I was limiting my growth if I only allowed myself to meet girls who only want one night stands?
Essentially what I'm telling you is that using useless criteria to judge somebody speaks more about you than them.
Lazy Man's Wallpaper
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I'm just lurking this thread but "Restrained Literary Maverick" would be a great username. Or tag
freenudemacusers
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There are a lot of hotties out there; clubs aren't full of notties.
Fonz72
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I came across as agressive, because like I said before, your orginal post was worded poorly. You proved this by clarifying what you meant in the second post. Anyway, it made it sound as though you were attacking the poster for having standards and a certain type of girl that he liked. Right or wrong we all have likes and dislikes when it comes to the opposite sex.
I felt it was an extremely immature view point, the stereotypical "bang-em all, Frat-boy" type mentality. You explained this was not the case, but also felt the need to call out my supposed "insecurity" when in fact most people with no or low standards in who they sleep with often do so because of a lack of self-esteem ie., an insecurity.
So I suppose you didn't mean what it looked like you typed so I will say, I am sorry if I replied aggressively towards what I took to be an attack on a poster's maturity who expressed a behavior you didn't agree with.
AdventureRacing
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I laughed way too hard at this. It reads like some sort of instruction manual. Sorry smoky but this here is a true literary maverick.
Clockwork5
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30+ is a lot at the age of 24. Regardless of gender... But people don't give a fuck these days so it is not uncommon.
YOLO generation is easier.
Palette Swap
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This sounds very true to me. I've seen a few relationships blown to pieces about that "numbers" issue and clearly, that came from one half of the couple obsessing over it or giving it meaning where there was none (or little)to be found. Having different views, standards or history made them incapable of relating to the past experiences of their partner. Which is kind of sad for everyone involved.
Start at 16, average 4 a year? Doesn't sound terrible TBH.
Amibguous Cad
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There is no number, fuck the prudes.
Finn of Ooo
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The number doesn't matter, probably should get tested for stds first though.
Amibguous Cad
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Is there a number for guys? Is it different than it is for girls? If it is, how do you reconcile it while still believing you're not a sexist sack of shit?
Can Crusher
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I didn't word it poorly at all. Never in my post do I say that not having casual sex limits his growth, but I do say that having such a strict criteria that expands to the other person does limit him. I'm not to blame for your lack of reading comprehension. Obviously because you didn't understand, I adjusted to you in my follow up post. Don't mistake that with me proving I didn't explain myself earlier.
Proof of this is that the poster I was replying too didn't seem to have the same problem as you did.
You read something that wasn't there. Furthermore you felt the need to defend yourself from something it wasn't there. People who sleep around don't necessarily have no or low standards. One extreme isn't better than the other, and there's no reason to believe that someone who sleeps around has low self esteem, while someone who basically never sleeps around has high self esteem. You could make a case for both really. For example all my high school friends who never had casual sex, were insecure with girls. One isn't exclusive to the other. And I wasn't debating this.
I meant exactly what I typed.
It's only a lot based on your perception. Perception which has been conditioned by generations of prudes, the same kind who made it so that you can turn on your T.V and see a dude's head blow up in full detail but if you see a vagina then shit gets serious.
turnbuckle
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Don't ask, Don't tell.
This applies for both sexes, particularly if there is some kind of number in your head of what is too many.
The number shouldn't matter so long as she/he is responsible.
That said, I'd be uncomfortable dating a person who had so many partners at such a young age. That's not their problem though, that's mine. And as such, I go back to the thing I said at first - don't ask, don't tell.
This applies for both sexes, particularly if there is some kind of number in your head of what is too many.
The number shouldn't matter so long as she/he is responsible.
That said, I'd be uncomfortable dating a person who had so many partners at such a young age. That's not their problem though, that's mine. And as such, I go back to the thing I said at first - don't ask, don't tell.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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Point 1: her number isn't ever going to go down. Is she never allowed to look for something serious?
Point 2: you're fucking insecure. Your fear that someone will leave you isn't something for you to take out on her.
I thought we already established that the limit for men is whatever the human female population is minus all the ugly chicks.
freenudemacusers
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I originally posted the formula in the first couple of pages but I have made some revisions:
More than me = slut
A few less than me = slutty
A lot less than me = lying about numbers (probably a slut)
Virgin = Will need 3rd party verification
My point wasn't so much "it was easy for me to get laid!!!!" just pointing out that, contrary to popular belief, a lot of people who casually hook up are just living their lives, meeting cool people and not inhibiting themselves. Some people in this thread act like people who like casual sex are spending time and effort constantly trolling for booty to add another notch to their bedpost out of some base need. Not true.
Heck, if asked I couldn't even tell you what my number is. And not because it's astronomically huge, but because I just don't think about it like that. I don't define myself by the amount of sex I am or am not having. Much less stressful way to live.
Vicetrailia
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I pay the number no mind. Considering how promiscuous I've been, I have no right to judge. I don't own said female.
As long as we are healthy and good together I'm not concerned.
As long as we are healthy and good together I'm not concerned.
Now if only we can get people to stop referring to women as 'females'.
Fenderputty
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This is the correct answer. A girl has been with too many partners if she's failed to live up to the standards that you've set for yourself. There is no double standard here.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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I love imagining the conversation before a woman sleeps with her 5th dude, who should apparently be her last. "So you're #5. I can't do anymore. Are we going to be together forever?"
perfectchaos007
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Don't forget you have to multiply 30+ by 3.
User 100115
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I am surprised this topic is still going strong. How many posts are too many for a thread about women's sexual promiscuity?
Devolution
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Eh. Plenty of people settle down with someone who's had way more sex than they have.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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People have a deep-seated need to be right about how other people should feel about their personal lives.
freenudemacusers
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It's men doing the posting so there is no limit.
SquiddyCracker
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There is no correct or incorrect answer, regardless if its a male or a female.
You should never try to go beyond your own boundaries and preferences, some people just do not want to date or even have sex with someone who has had X partners.
The worst thing you can do is take someone elses boundries and preferences and force them upon you because its the "right" thing to do. There is no right thing, just listen to yourself.
You should never try to go beyond your own boundaries and preferences, some people just do not want to date or even have sex with someone who has had X partners.
The worst thing you can do is take someone elses boundries and preferences and force them upon you because its the "right" thing to do. There is no right thing, just listen to yourself.
Good friend Can winging them bungalows of logic. You go sir.
freenudemacusers
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what if the key gets broken in the lock?I believe brandon has an answer to that:
straight baby thighs
That argument only holds up if you are sexist. This isn't the 1890's where a girl is only able to be married off if she's a virgin. We don't live in that era. It isn't a male's job to try and get into every pair of pants possible and it isn't a female's job to try to prevent every male from getting in. It is a stupid statement that I see parroted all the time.
Devolution
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Most vaginas are combination locks and that guy is just salty he fails at getting it right.
This made my day.
So does the 5 rule apply to mouth and butt stuff?
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