Or from Drake, who bathes in milk and indulges in the softest, sensitive lotions:
"Women wanna fuck like they're me and I'm them"
I don't listen to drake please post a spotify link to this song.
Or from Drake, who bathes in milk and indulges in the softest, sensitive lotions:
"Women wanna fuck like they're me and I'm them"
This.
Just speaking from personal experience, but it was so easy to get laid in college (still us), and often you don't even realize it. You're just going out, having fun, meeting new people, and not being afraid to let things play out as they will.
There just seems to be this idea that people who engage in casual sex obsess over it, and I don't think that's the case. The vast majority of hook-ups I've had have been the result of hanging out with cool people that I vibed with and just letting things naturally progress. Heck, I'm more likely to hit up one of my good friends if I'm in the mood for just a straight up fuck. In all honesty, it seems like the people who place so much value on not having sex obsess over it more than the people who are actually out there getting laid.
This.
Just speaking from personal experience, but it was so easy to get laid in college (still us), and often you don't even realize it. You're just going out, having fun, meeting new people, and not being afraid to let things play out as they will.
If you're the kind of guy that simply goes from relationship to relationship, and you're happy with it then good for you. All I'm saying is that in the same way you are judgmental of others, others will be judgmental of you.
That 30 seems pretty high for you when she's 24, speaks more about you than her. That's all I'm trying to convey to you.
I understand that reading comprehension is at an all time low in the world, but no that's not what I said. You came off as really insecure there.
What I said is that by having such a narrow minded view with the type of girls you would like to meet and date, you are boxing out a ton of women and the possibility of meeting some amazing ones. And in that sense you really are limiting your growth, because you are boxing yourself within your perceived standards. You reject to expand your experience past the ones you feel comfortable with by default.
If you wanna fuck a lot, that's cool.
If you don't wanna fuck a lot, that's cool.
If you wanna fuck someone who's fucked a lot, that's cool.
If you wanna fuck someone that hasn't fucked a lot, that's cool.
What's not cool is judging and/or mocking someone because of their personal preferences in partners (as long as they're not being idiots about expressing those preferences or judging and/or mocking people themselves), because it ultimately has shit exactly to do with you.
Seeing as how the OP hasn't even dropped back in, I'm starting to think this thread was created for the express purpose of starting shit.
The real man will choose the right girl from the first to the third spot.In the case that you are serious, how would you describe a man that has 30+? A man that normally gets one girl a month for a period of 2 and a half years?
I don't listen to drake please post a spotify link to this song.
You can try to insult me if you want, but what you in fact said was "In the end though, it is a fact that by having such a narrow and selective attitude, you are most certainly depriving yourself of meeting amazing girls. Not only that, you might even be limiting your own growth." This implies that by being selective with who he hooks up with and having standards, he is limiting his growth. Go ahead and read it a couple times if you need to. Fucking girls you don't like does not make you a more mature person. Sure, you may wake up in the morning and realize that you met the most amazing person in the world, but odds are that ain't gonna happen.
What you replied to me with, actually sounds much better. My reply however was to what you orginally posted. So perhaps instead of critiquing my reading comprehension, focus instead on what you type. Use your words, tough guy.
So true. If you want to get laid, stop wanting to get laid and just live your life.
Edit: I just realised my first and second sentences aren't really related, although it looks like they're supposed to be. I guess I could change my post but I'm a literary maverick, I just don't give a fuck. Well, obviously I cared enough to make this edit, but you get the idea. A restrained maverick, if you will.
There are a lot of hotties out there; clubs aren't full of notties.Right.
Except most people have standards.
There are a lot of hotties out there; clubs aren't full of notties.
Actually my post is clearly talking about the way you evaluate a woman, and not about sticking your dick in everything that moves. I didn't try to insult you, but you were so aggressive that clearly it was coming from a sensitive spot. Specially when you read what wasn't there, making me believe that either someone has or you have confronted yourself with it and didn't leave entirely convinced.
If I've only been with 4 women by the time I'm 30, but I had no specific criteria, then I wouldn't be narrow minded would I? I would just be somebody who doesn't want casual sex. Or someone who is unwanted of course, depending on how you look at it. Or simply someone who went from relationship to relationship by chance. It doesn't directly mean anything good or bad by default.
However if I tell you I only allow myself to meet women with huge tits, how does that not say something about my maturity? Hell we could always flip it, wouldn't it seem like I was limiting my growth if I only allowed myself to meet girls who only want one night stands?
Essentially what I'm telling you is that using useless criteria to judge somebody speaks more about you than them.
The real man will choose the right girl from the first to the third spot.
The girl could gain the experience on bed in so short time.
30+ is a lot at the age of 24. Regardless of gender... But people don't give a fuck these days so it is not uncommon.
This sounds very true to me. I've seen a few relationships blown to pieces about that "numbers" issue and clearly, that came from one half of the couple obsessing over it or giving it meaning where there was none (or little)to be found. Having different views, standards or history made them incapable of relating to the past experiences of their partner. Which is kind of sad for everyone involved.In all honesty, it seems like the people who place so much value on not having sex obsess over it more than the people who are actually out there getting laid.
Start at 16, average 4 a year? Doesn't sound terrible TBH.30+ is a lot at the age of 24. Regardless of gender... But people don't give a fuck these days so it is not uncommon.
I came across as agressive, because like I said before, your orginal post was worded poorly. You proved this by clarifying what you meant in the second post. Anyway, it made it sound as though you were attacking the poster for having standards and a certain type of girl that he liked. Right or wrong we all have likes and dislikes when it comes to the opposite sex.
I felt it was an extremely immature view point, the stereotypical "bang-em all, Frat-boy" type mentality. You explained this was not the case, but also felt the need to call out my supposed "insecurity" when in fact most people with no or low standards in who they sleep with often do so because of a lack of self-esteem ie., an insecurity.
So I suppose you didn't mean what it looked like you typed so I will say, I am sorry if I replied aggressively towards what I took to be an attack on a poster's maturity who expressed a behavior you didn't agree with.
30+ is a lot at the age of 24. Regardless of gender... But people don't give a fuck these days so it is not uncommon.
Point 1: her number isn't ever going to go down. Is she never allowed to look for something serious?Take it as you want but if I hook up with a 24 year old girl who say she's already had 30 partners it tells me she's
- either not in a faze yet of her life where she's looking for something serious.
- or she's one of those people who will always be on the look out for the next best thing instead of being happy with who they've got and making compromises and won't stick around too long once things get 'stale' or the first arguments start to happen after the first months of moonshine .
Is there a number for guys? Is it different than it is for girls? If it is, how do you reconcile it while still believing you're not a sexist sack of shit?
I originally posted the formula in the first couple of pages but I have made some revisions:Is there a number for guys? Is it different than it is for girls? If it is, how do you reconcile it while still believing you're not a sexist sack of shit?
Your experiences in college != everyone else's experiences in college.
Just because it was easy for you does not mean it was easy for others, and acting as if it will be easy for everyone is just ridiculous.
Edit: For the sake of clarity, note that I was responding in part to you and in part to the poster you quoted.
I pay the number no mind. Considering how promiscuous I've been, I have no right to judge. I don't own said female.
As long as we are healthy and good together I'm not concerned.
I managed to read a few pages and this thread is somewhat odd. Basically it is a bunch of people arguing for a "right" answer for something that is inherently an opinion. I don't sleep around and never did even in college. Yes I have turned down anonymous sex before with girls at parties. It isn't my style. The number of girls I've slept with is four. I don't wear it as a badge of shame nor do I gloat about it. It is simply who I am. If I'm not in a relationship with the girl nor if I see a relationship with her going somewhere I don't engage in sex with them. Again, this is who I am. It is something I hold valuable. It is something I'd look for in a future partner. It doesn't mean I judge or "shame" girls who sleep around -- I just have no interest in dating someone who trivializes sex with others. It means something to me and I didn't want to make it less by constantly sleeping around. Again, that is me. That is not gospel for everyone. If someone is bothered by the number of sexual partners their BF/GF has had I fully get it. If someone doesn't care about that number I see that side of the argument as well. There is no "right" answer here. There are only right answers on a per person basis.
I love imagining the conversation before a woman sleeps with her 5th dude, who should apparently be her last. "So you're #5. I can't do anymore. Are we going to be together forever?"Whoa this went on for a while after I went to bed. So have we figured out how many sex partners a women should have in her life time?
This is the correct answer. A girl has been with too many partners if she's failed to live up to the standards that you've set for yourself. There is no double standard here.
I am surprised this topic is still going strong. How many posts are too many for a thread about women's sexual promiscuity?
It's men doing the posting so there is no limit.I am surprised this topic is still going strong. How many posts are too many for a thread about women's sexual promiscuity?
Is there a number for guys? Is it different than it is for girls? If it is, how do you reconcile it while still believing you're not a sexist sack of shit?
I didn't word it poorly at all. Never in my post do I say that not having casual sex limits his growth, but I do say that having such a strict criteria that expands to the other person does limit him. I'm not to blame for your lack of reading comprehension. Obviously because you didn't understand, I adjusted to you in my follow up post. Don't mistake that with me proving I didn't explain myself earlier.
Proof of this is that the poster I was replying too didn't seem to have the same problem as you did.
You read something that wasn't there. Furthermore you felt the need to defend yourself from something it wasn't there. People who sleep around don't necessarily have no or low standards. One extreme isn't better than the other, and there's no reason to believe that someone who sleeps around has low self esteem, while someone who basically never sleeps around has high self esteem. You could make a case for both really. For example all my high school friends who never had casual sex, were insecure with girls. One isn't exclusive to the other. And I wasn't debating this.
I meant exactly what I typed.
It's only a lot based on your perception. Perception which has been conditioned by generations of prudes, the same kind who made it so that you can turn on your T.V and see a dude's head blow up in full detail but if you see a vagina then shit gets serious.
what if the key gets broken in the lock?I believe brandon has an answer to that:
Or from Drake, who bathes in milk and indulges in the softest, sensitive lotions:
"Women wanna fuck like they're me and I'm them"
I believe brandon has an answer to that:
This made my day.It's men doing the posting so there is no limit.
I love imagining the conversation before a woman sleeps with her 5th dude, who should apparently be her last. "So you're #5. I can't do anymore. Are we going to be together forever?"