First off, I'd like to make a case against Garbaga's acceptance of trans'.
sorry, but I have a marked preference for cis-girls and cis-girls only. i fully support transgendered peoples in their quest for equality but i'm simply unattracted to trans-girls.
The question "Are transgendered folk obligated to disclose that information to potential mates?" operates under the assumption that it can not be identified. Here Garbaga is implying (and later on continuing to imply) a sixth sense in identifying people's genitals.
you should understand a person's sexual preferences and attraction aren't founded upon rational/logical thought; therefore your argument here does not apply.
personally, i've never felt a significant attraction to a trans-woman; definitely not in real life and even on the internet with all of the pics of "hot" trans-women who are pretty indistinguishable from cis-women.
This is sort of just a continuation of avoiding the actual question. "I'm not attracted to transgenders because I know they're transgender."
But Garbaga still supports them but does not accept them.
Then the gloves come off:
Bottomline is, I do not wish to engage in any intimate activities with trans-women; indistinguishable from cis-women or not.
Essentially playing the card that, in an encounter where they had no preconceived notion of a sex change, they are the victim. In fact, they are still not "women" in Garbaga's mind. Despite not being able to distinguish any differences, they are not Garbaga's type.
You do not have a sixth sense about this. Without logic or reason backing people's preference, and not being able distinguish between cis and trans, there is still a desire not to engage in intimate activities.
Okay, not all the way in on the bigotry train, "intimate activities" can mean a couple things. Could be emotional or physical.
Eventually the actual question is addressed:
That is a great question, like I said before I was introduced to pics of Miriam without knowing she was trans and noticed those peculiarities (however, their had to be some reason my pals were showing me this pic of this not particularly remarkable woman).
I don't doubt that their are trans-woman in the world where I simply could not distinguish any peculiarities at all; it's a miracle how far technology and medicine has come.
Without an answer. Let's presume that, to be fair, everything that was a response to the question the first was not the answer to the actual question (because the question is finally being addressed by Garbaga as
the question.
So what the hell is this shit.
I think one of my main hold-backs in regards to dating/boning trans-women is the surgery.
It seems we can barely get boob-jobs or lip injections right, they end up looking like crap more often than not to me; very inconsistent.
If we can barely get those right, I can't even begin to imagine sexual reassignment surgery; I'm sure my worries won't apply centuries from now.
In the present, however, I think they definitely apply.
That all sounds great -- but their are excellent boob-jobs as well; does't make them all great, seems most are mediocre and some just outright bad.
I don't think it'd be a stretch to imagine it's the same way for SRA as well, I don't have too much faith; I'll always be a "natural is better" man until ALL surgeries hit that excellent level.
I wish nothing more than full equality for trans-peoples, better surgery will certainly aid this.
This is some Don't Ask Don't Tell level of bullshit acceptance.
"Natural is better." I'm sorry but no, you don't dismiss people for not being "natural." In fact, that's such an offensive use of the word, insinuating that anyone that is not of the heterosexual orientation is unnatural should be grounds for "Fuck off."
And you know what, if you're accepting of people then it's safe to assume that discrimination shouldn't occur. I mean, if you support gay rights then would you believe that gays should not get married? Or denied jobs based on their identity? Or denied love because of who they are?
Then you wouldn't say this:
I don't think it matters what you think, what matters is that it does.
What matters is that it does. Fully supporting someone on their quest for equality only to tell them that their differences matter?
Fuck you.