Yeah, I can hold my own with my family and people who I know aren't judgmental assholes. But even with them, there are periods of "delay" where I have trouble composing my thought and spitting it out quickly enough. This hampers the flow of conversation.
To be fair though, I may have exaggerated a bit in my previous post, because there have been people who weren't able to tell the difference between me and any non-autistic person. This has proven to be both a blessing and a curse. A blessing because I don't seem to instantly repulse girls that I'm interested in, but a curse because they expect better of me since I don't outwardly appear to have Asperger's.
I have some good news for you. Not everybody is an asshole or judgmental. Some might be, but that seriously shouldn't be any concern to you. Unless they're actually bothering you in day to day life, just ignore people like this. Don't take their shit personal and move on. There will always be assholes, they're not worth your time.
That other guy with Asperger's is a friend of an ex of mine. He grew up with people who weren't assholes so he practically said whatever came up. He wasn't inhibited by his stress (if I understand correctly, stress has a negative effect on Asperger's symptoms, right? Please correct me if I'm wrong
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When I was walking with my then-girlfriend, him, another girl(who liked my girlfriend) and some other guys, out of the blue he said: "you do realise you're walking here with three other people who want to fuck Eva, right?" Some people looked shocked like: "wtf, how can you say that?" Eva, and me and some other people where like: "Euh...no problem that's just Victor, he says awkward/weird crap like that." He's also a kind, helpful, hardworking, hilarious and awesome guy. That's what we judge him on. How good of a person he is. Not on his Asperger's.
Legitimate question: do you automatically assume people judge you when you meet them for the first time?
Support groups are groups formed by people with the same condition (mostly) to give eachother advice, talk about their problems and find people who are just in the same situation. Never been to one but I heard good things about them.
Hi, I joined a Latin Dance class that meets every wendsday night. Today was my third class and the instructor had us switch partners through out the night. Anyways, I was very nervous as I know I am not a good dancer and I was sweating because of the nerves. Well, when the instructor informed us to switch parters, I got to partner up with a very cute girl. She was smiling the whole time we were dancing and even went easy on me as I told her about my two left feet. Anyways, I found her attractive and want to get to know her better, I could tell that there was interest on her part as well as she kept looking at me throughout the whole time we were dancing. Anyways, I want to get to know her more and eventually see what happens but this is the part where I always fail. I always get alot of attention from women but I always pussy out and never do anything. I just want to see what tips or steps I should take to over come this fear, I know once I get past the initial hurdle it will be alot easier.
Just a couple of general tips (if you need them): Don't worry or complain to much about your two left feet. I found a little self deprecating humor goes a long way, but you'll be and have more fun if you're just...well...having fun. I mess up on the dancefloor quite often during merengue and my arms tend to end up in the most complicated and tangled mess. People laugh about it (in a good way) and tell me it's awesome that I don't care. And sometimes something actually works out, what do you know!
Second, don't be nervous
If you're doing your best and are having fun noone will give a shit if you're not performing the steps perfectly. You shouldn't either.
Third, I have (unfortunately) found not every girl who smiles at you during dancing is actually interested, but is just being an engaging dance-partner. Which is still awesome. Next time if you end up dancing with her, offer to buy her a drink. If you can buy stuff at your salsaclub it'll be easy. Just say: wow I'm parched, I'm getting a drink. You want something? If you don't end up with her...after the lesson just ask her if she can show you some moves. Walk up to her and say something like: you're awesome to dance with, could you help me run through this and this again. After that offer her a drink...talk about whatever. Good luck
Can't wait to go dancing again on friday!