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November? More like Confessember! Anonymous Confessions/Advice Thread 2013
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BuddyJoeHooker
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Talk to your wife dude. Like I said before, monogamy takes work. Fact is she's also never had sex with another woman. Chances are she probably feels like she missed out too in her sexual awakening. Perhaps there are things you can do together to help alleviate that. I'm not a fan of married couples having open relationships (though it does work for some) you made a committment to be together and take care of each other not just financially or emotionally but sexually as well. As such by keeping things from your wife you're not allowing her to do her job or visa versa. Loads of people have this problem and everyone comes up with different solutions. Some take to role playing, others to watching porn together, others still to escorts, others to threesomes others to swinging and yet others to open relationships. The ones that don't talk about it end up resenting or cheating.
This is like the 5th wierd sexual confession about preschool
how do these things happen
Alright, this isn't nearly as raunchy or persona destroying enough to be posted anonymously, but I still have an issue that needs resolved.
So let's start with the beginning, my best friends brother befriended me after my best friend left for college. we were pretty good friends, but he had some other friends in jersey that he would talk about. I ended up going to a party filled with these friends, and later found my current gf at this party. Well about a month or so later, that friend was put into the hospital for a life threatening disease. During this time, me and my gf's relationship turned great, and i became friends with the ones from New Jersey.
We eventually start roleplaying groups were we play tabletop games and generally have fun. The group has its problems, but whatever, it's fun enough. The problem starts when my friend gets out of the hospital. Now this guy had some serious mental health issues, but add in some PTSD and turn up all of the other problems up to 11 and we have his current state.
So there's a few huge problems that have come up due to this happening. #1 this guys loves to be the center of attention and loves to be the group "leader." My GF had always been the "leader" and I think that caused my GF some issues, but the problem was was that everyone in the group were his cronies. The group was filled with a bunch of nerds who liked to follow i guess, and he's completely turned them into monsters too. There's always a designated person that they constantly ridicule (my girlfriend). Not only that, but he thinks he's gods gift to giving advice, and while on certain topics he might be right, he never approaches giving advice correctly, he acts incredibly condescending and treats them like they are less then human, and that causes tons of drama and unnecessary strife. This is a problem because he gets the rest of his cronies to do the same thing, and he has caused around4 people now to leave the RP group, just by being a douche
The other problem is that he's the most stubborn person on earth, and will make up things in his head at later dates to prove himself right. Now, Im also stubborn to a certain extent, but this guy takes the cake of being stubborn. He's also the type of person to supplement his bad opinions afterword to saying, LOL I WAS JUST TROLLING, WHY ARE SO MAD. Now this normally wouldn't be a problem, but he takes this shit to the umpteenth degree, and once again causes an immense amount of drama. People just then take it from him because they don't want to argue with him, and it inflates his ego even more because he looks at himself as some argumentative genius or some shit.
So to make matters simple, me and my gf decided to just stop communicating with the group. My gf though has been super depressed about it. That group was her High School friends, and she didn't really give up the group as much as they completely just pushed her out. Ive wanted to confront this guy and call him an idiot and tell him what deserves to be said, but I already know it won't fix anything and it'll just cause more drama.
I just feel bad about my girlfriend for losing out on that. We've been trying to form other RP groups, but I have a hard time making friends with nerds around where i live (for some reason i get a long with bros a lot better) and she's been really shy and has been going through some really bad depression over a few personal things. So my question is what do, Ive been trying to find my gf a new group of companions to hang out with, but it's hard, and the old group still exists but she still feels very connected to them in an immense way. Also, my friend has been talking shit about her behind her back and says that she has "changed" me and corrupted me and made me worse and all that shit, so the other friends have been being dicks to me and my GF too.
The worst part is that I know this kid has gone through shit, and not everything is his fault. A lot of these issues are from underlying problems that he's trying to get help for. I kind of feel bad about that shit, but I don't know if I should. What should I do about this situation. I ask you Gaf in your infinite wisdom
also sorry if this reads poorly, I forgot to take my ADHD meds this morning so im a little hyper
So let's start with the beginning, my best friends brother befriended me after my best friend left for college. we were pretty good friends, but he had some other friends in jersey that he would talk about. I ended up going to a party filled with these friends, and later found my current gf at this party. Well about a month or so later, that friend was put into the hospital for a life threatening disease. During this time, me and my gf's relationship turned great, and i became friends with the ones from New Jersey.
We eventually start roleplaying groups were we play tabletop games and generally have fun. The group has its problems, but whatever, it's fun enough. The problem starts when my friend gets out of the hospital. Now this guy had some serious mental health issues, but add in some PTSD and turn up all of the other problems up to 11 and we have his current state.
So there's a few huge problems that have come up due to this happening. #1 this guys loves to be the center of attention and loves to be the group "leader." My GF had always been the "leader" and I think that caused my GF some issues, but the problem was was that everyone in the group were his cronies. The group was filled with a bunch of nerds who liked to follow i guess, and he's completely turned them into monsters too. There's always a designated person that they constantly ridicule (my girlfriend). Not only that, but he thinks he's gods gift to giving advice, and while on certain topics he might be right, he never approaches giving advice correctly, he acts incredibly condescending and treats them like they are less then human, and that causes tons of drama and unnecessary strife. This is a problem because he gets the rest of his cronies to do the same thing, and he has caused around4 people now to leave the RP group, just by being a douche
The other problem is that he's the most stubborn person on earth, and will make up things in his head at later dates to prove himself right. Now, Im also stubborn to a certain extent, but this guy takes the cake of being stubborn. He's also the type of person to supplement his bad opinions afterword to saying, LOL I WAS JUST TROLLING, WHY ARE SO MAD. Now this normally wouldn't be a problem, but he takes this shit to the umpteenth degree, and once again causes an immense amount of drama. People just then take it from him because they don't want to argue with him, and it inflates his ego even more because he looks at himself as some argumentative genius or some shit.
So to make matters simple, me and my gf decided to just stop communicating with the group. My gf though has been super depressed about it. That group was her High School friends, and she didn't really give up the group as much as they completely just pushed her out. Ive wanted to confront this guy and call him an idiot and tell him what deserves to be said, but I already know it won't fix anything and it'll just cause more drama.
I just feel bad about my girlfriend for losing out on that. We've been trying to form other RP groups, but I have a hard time making friends with nerds around where i live (for some reason i get a long with bros a lot better) and she's been really shy and has been going through some really bad depression over a few personal things. So my question is what do, Ive been trying to find my gf a new group of companions to hang out with, but it's hard, and the old group still exists but she still feels very connected to them in an immense way. Also, my friend has been talking shit about her behind her back and says that she has "changed" me and corrupted me and made me worse and all that shit, so the other friends have been being dicks to me and my GF too.
The worst part is that I know this kid has gone through shit, and not everything is his fault. A lot of these issues are from underlying problems that he's trying to get help for. I kind of feel bad about that shit, but I don't know if I should. What should I do about this situation. I ask you Gaf in your infinite wisdom
also sorry if this reads poorly, I forgot to take my ADHD meds this morning so im a little hyper
No, thank YOUUUU!
oh my
User 100115
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Yep, anon, the entire slash fanfiction industry is middle aged straight women getting horny over gay relationships. Don't worry about what gets you going unless it's you know, murder or something. You're good!
Time to commit pseudocide.
SquiddyCracker
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Yeah, lol, the crazy thing is that I don't even think it's that bad after what happened with Doozy.
Professor Beef
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So I have an actual confession. I don't know how to ride a bike, and I'm terrified of the thought of trying to.
look back a few pages, I posted a step by step guide as to how to do it.
No seriously, look back a few pages. It's how I taught my kids to ride bikes.
Professor Beef
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Hmmm
start with tricycle. move your way to a bicycle. it's how i learned
I didn't know how to ride a bike until I was around 10. I was always really embarrassed about it when people would bring up riding bikes, and I had my own at the time so it didn't appear I didn't actually know.
Eventually one day I got sick of it and hopped on the bike I had and would not stop practicing that afternoon until I could. Fortunately I lived in an apartment complex at the time with columns at certain intervals in the car holes, so I would set goals for myself on how far I could get. Eventually I made it the entire distance and wasn't stopping at any point and rode back and forth.
One of the most satisfying things I've ever done.
There's no reason for being afraid of it. Truthfully, I'm still scared of hitting a deer or pedestrian whenever I drive. A few scraped knees and elbows is nothing in comparison. Cheap bikes are everywhere so grab one, push yourself along with your feet and ignore the pedals until you get used to balancing (the faster you go the easier it is to balance because physics).
Also learn how to swim if you don't know. Biking and swimming are fun, healthy, and good life skills. Even if you're like me and very rarely if ever bike anymore, you won't regret learning.
accidentally? dude, you're a terrible person.Remember what I said about pacing? So after the little respect/love-in time to reset the levels on this thread:
Accidentally?
Man, what a mess.
i feel, if they get turned on by lots of people seeing them, you should be allowed to post their pics.
...this, this is a thing? I didn't even know. I don't think my wife would get off to that, but i will now definitely ask.
Professor Beef
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It all stems from when I was a kid, and my dad tried to teach me. He'd always yell when I messed up, and that feeling never really went away. It didn't help when other people who tried to teach me yelled also. :|
And of course I know how to swim!
I didn't learn to ride until I was 7 or 8, then didn't really ride again until the last 2 months at 25. It's worth it if just as a way to get out of the house and away from electronics for a while.
I didn't have anyone around with me. This is actually a theme for how I've learned many basic life skills. I learned how to tie my shoes when I was around 7, I similarly just never learned. Ride a bike, tell time, and eventually learning stick shift.
My dad isn't great with instructions and has little patience so I know how you feel.
BuddyJoeHooker
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Those people are idiots. All the yelling fostered fear and self doubt in you and riding a bike is basically nothing but confidence through practice and familiarity.
confession: does anyone else not read the non anonymous confessions posted in here? I feel like if you can post it with your name attached to it, its either made up, or not that bad.
Also to anon that killed someone in self defense, get help! and talk about it, not talking about it is only going to delay things.
First, to anon, don't let them die. Secondly, you'd be surprised at how draining it is even for professionals. Wife is a psychologist, and sometimes she comes home completely drained by her patients.
Also to anon that killed someone in self defense, get help! and talk about it, not talking about it is only going to delay things.
I can't swim
I was always too anxious about it, my school swimming instructor gave me my 5 metre badge (at an embarrassingly old age) on our last ever swimming lesson out of pity, I swam about 2 metres.Night Hunter
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While I read once that kids having their first experiences with their brother or sister is not that uncommon getting your sister pregnant is definitely something else. The whole thing is fucked up and while there are no easy outs here, I would definitely recommend an abortion.
Makes sense to me
Definitely get the abortion. That shouldn't even be a question. And don't bone your sister anymore. Problems kind of solved.
I never thought I'd read these words in this order.
Alligatorjandro
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Holy fucking shit
SquiddyCracker
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Yeah, boning your sister is one thing, but actually allowing such an abominable coupling to yield fruit is a can of worm best kept shut closed.
Go_Ly_Dow
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Hot Coldman
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you gotta go fast
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Deleted member 231381
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Was that meant to be abominable, or does abdominable mean something I'm not aware of?
SquiddyCracker
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That was indeed meant to be abominable.
Abdominable sounds abs-related, which doesn't quite fit in this context, no
User 100115
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It's a huge thing. A good majority of fanfiction is straight women writing about the males in the shows getting together.
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Deleted member 231381
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That was indeed meant to be abominable.
Abdominable sounds abs-related, which doesn't quite fit in this context, no
I don't know, I was slightly worried that abdominable would fit rather too well.
ShockingAlberto
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*sighs*
I understand the feeling, but
Okay, I guess in the spirit of this thread, I'll confess something that a lot of people already know about me but I was going to send in anonymously.
When I was in high school, a friend of mine killed herself. The last person she tried to talk to before it was, apparently, me and I blew her off and said I'd talk to her another time. This fucked me up for years. Like, even when everyone told me it wasn't my fault, when I tried not to blame myself, there was still this part in the back of my head that went "Hey, you might have been responsible for someone's death! HOW'S THAT FEEL."
"Kinda shitty."
"RIGHT?!"
"Can we stop feeling bad now?"
"Oh, yeah, sure, we'll go out, have a nice time, drink some beers at a pa--REMEMBER IT AGAIN"
I am not saying you should be this person's ward and watcher. There are people who threaten it for attention, especially to people they have latched on to that they don't have that kind of relationship with. What I am saying is that your assumption that there will be guilt even if there's no real reason to feel it is pretty spot-on. Simply anticipating it does not prevent it. Knowing that you did everything you could and at some point it's not your responsibility still leaves you with survivor's guilt.
My best advice? Know it's coming, don't try to deny it, then move past it. Doing what I did (running away from it for a few years by exploring the bottoms of bottles in Europe) doesn't work very well. Well it works great if you want to lose all your money but terribly if you want to just live your life.
Of course, they could just be doing nothing but trying to get attention. In which case, fuck 'em.
Hot Coldman
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Despicable.
The problem is knowing when this is the case and when it isn't. The next problem is that they could be going for attention but one day something flips and they are actually serious suddenlt. It's a tightrope act sometimes which can be rough.
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