The funny thing is that while everyone is saying this is obvious I guarantee you that if this gets brought up in another thread you'll have waves upon waves of people jumping on the person to tell them why they're wrong and a terrible person for so much as thinking such a thing.
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Guy Made A Fake Tinder Profile To Prove That Girls Never Think Hot Dudes Are Creepy
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Eh, I dunno. I was trying to be as normal as possible, so...🤷
entremet
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Well the context here is very specific--online dating--specifically Tinder.
No idea why some brought up the harassment angle. You can easily block folks on dating apps.
Puck Beaverton
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If you start blaming or shaming women for it then yes it is a problem.
People like attractive things. I get why people can be bitter about that but it's something you have to accept.
Hella Lugosi
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I get a lot of messages from thirsty dudes on fetlife and I pretty much just laugh them off. Conventional attractiveness doesn't contribute to creepiness as much as other factors.
Things that creep me out:
Having a blank or mostly blank profile
A wide age discrepancy (even though I'm almost thirty getting messages from 60 year olds still feels predatory)
A profile containing 7 dick pics and zero face pics
Oversharing about a weird fetish (like this guy who won't stop telling me how much he wants to fuck underage anime characters)
Couples profiles. Seriously all couples profiles come across as super skeevy and I don't know why they keep trying 'cause it never works.
Mysterious
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Wtf I just used this face sitting line and got
"Hahahaha good one ��"
and
"Of course!"
as my responses. I guess I just found my newest Tinder pickup line lolol. I don't think it's a particularly creepy line though, more punny/clever.
"Hahahaha good one ��"
and
"Of course!"
as my responses. I guess I just found my newest Tinder pickup line lolol. I don't think it's a particularly creepy line though, more punny/clever.
Puck Beaverton
Banned
he sounds like a keeper
efyu_lemonardo
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Show us.
Good luck getting people to accept that. We all want the best, even if we live atop a bell tower.
lightskintwin
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This, or even banned for expressing it, regardless if it's based on personal experience.
BreezyLimbo
Banned
Have the comedic ability of a god
CrimsonSquall
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Wait I'm confused. So you're agreeing with everything I've said now?
When was any sort of blame or shame even mentioned or implied?
Yes, and that's a thing everyone will suddenly forget the moment this thread falls off the first five pages.
MrToughPants
Brian Burke punched my mom
Trust me it has it's downsides...
lightskintwin
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I don't know if you were joking, but confidence and a good sense of humor go a long way, especially in person, regardless of how you look.
So do magic tricks imo
lightskintwin
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LOL OK.
entremet
Member
There's a reference there somewhere lol.
They can be not ugly
efyu_lemonardo
May I have a cookie?
Nothing from this so far.. should I try the face sitting one?
MsKrisp
Member
I was disagreeing with your generalization (I disagreed with a poster saying things like this are only creepy if you're unattractive, and you said it was true tho), and I also get creeped out when people talk about their tinder "social experiments." I don't disagree that most people on tinder are trying to fuck, and looks play into that. And as I said previously, women, just like men, have diminished judgement when horny
Puck Beaverton
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I'll agree with you that GAF has an awful tendency to fish for thread backfires.
I'm guilty of it, and its why I don't make threads venting my insecurities.
FunkyPajamas
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99.999999% of the time. A woman hitting me with "let's have sex" right from the start would raise a red flag for me because I would think it's either a chat bot or some psycho trying to get my kidneys. I'm not handsome enough for that stuff to happen to me.
To be fair, I wouldn't be offended or would unmatch right away, I would just be wary but curious. It kind of happened to me about a week ago on Tinder. Average looking girl, we matched, I opened with a random line, she asked for my number right away. I thought that was odd, so I said let's chat for a bit longer, she said "I don't have time for this. Thanks for your time.". And that was it. She didn't unmatch me, I did.
Also, man, these screenshots are old. Wasn't there a thread about this already a few years ago? I remember seeing them before. Perhaps in imgur?
family_guy
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You could prove this same concept at work. If you're ugly, get ready for a word with HR.
Jadedm17 post this stuff on your real account
pixelation
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These were my favourites:
The spirit of forgiveness is strong in these girls.
Hahahaha those are really funny.
lightskintwin
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IMO the rate of "desirable" women for men far exceed the rate of "desirable" men for women, hence the supply and demand being greater for "desirable" men and why the numbers bear in your favor for that outcome.
FunkyPajamas
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For the stuff that matters (work/career, self realization, etx) sure (unless trying to work as a model I guess?), but if we're talking about dating there are people that will absolutely not date unattractive/short/overweight/underweight people. So in that sense it's more like "you can still find someone" instead of "you can date pretty much whoever you want", like some insanely attractive people can.
Of course. Which is still the norm for most people.
lightskintwin
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Savage, despite somewhat agreeing with family_guy or should I say Jadedm17. LOL
SmackDaddy
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#?
I feel like I have that and I've been told I'm charismatic and really positive lol. Thus far it has gotten me nowhere though have gotten alot of numbers. Still regularly get no responses or just plain got ignored
.It's a reaction against guys thinking that creepiness or harassment is only tied to their (lack of) attractiveness. And not what they're saying/doing, the context in which they're saying/doing it, etc.
Hell there's someone here trying to say workplace harassment isn't harassment if you're good looking.
For the record, I've definitely been creeped out by the come ons of guys I thought were good looking (and out of my league even.)
lightskintwin
Banned
I feel like I have that and I've been told I'm charismatic and really positive lol. Thus far it has gotten me nowhere though have gotten alot of numbers. Still regularly get no responses or just plain got ignored
I mean, don't get me wrong, how others judge your overall look still plays a significant part in the equation. So perhaps I'd look into trying to improve that.
How About No
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These were my favourites:
The spirit of forgiveness is strong in these girls.
Are these girls Elder Scrolls NPCs?
Audioboxer
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People are collectives when it fits the narrative, and outliers or individuals when it doesn't. Identity politics and collectivism go hand in hand. Get used to that, it happens all the time on the internet.
Nuance leads anyone to know on a dating site/something like Tinder of course there will be many people of both sexes just wanting hookups and/or to chase what they deem as attractive people. So that is indeed a huge duh. As long as adults are consenting on dating sites they can do as they please, moral busy bodies need to stay out of other people's lives.
This 'social experiment' is a pretty daft 'hot take'. It doesn't prove anything we do not know, and is probably just framed as it is to appeal to internet clicks. Not to mention technically speaking, fake profiles are probably against T&C in some way, I'd assume.
DiipuSurotu
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The Call Me Maybe music video has over 930 million views on YouTube. How do these girls not recognize the guy??
efyu_lemonardo
May I have a cookie?
Maybe they thought it was him
Some people want to bang people who say creepy things.
It's a very human thing to not be able to come to terms with it, actually. People have to be dissatisfied with the status quo in order to start making changes that would put them in a better position to realize their goals. No one has trouble understanding that attractive people have easier time having random sex or why it is easier. What they have trouble with is accepting that they do not belong to that bracket, and why wouldn't they? There is nothing inherently in it for them to just accept it without "resistance". It's all about furthering your own goals in life.
Sad thing is I powerlift regularly too lol. And off the top of my head 2 of my gay friends have complimented me to say I'm cute. Otherwise I haven't had much luck even hearing that from a woman. But yeah I pretty much feel like Charlie Brown and ending of the peanuts movie hit me right in the soul since I swear I'm in a similar predicament lol.
You should ask 'how short?' lol. I'm 164cm (~5'4"), so in the realm of not just short but VERY short. I've learned to live with its implications though, I know things like online dating and clubs/bars do not work in my favour so when I'm not in a crippling depression caused partially by that fact I try other things (just meeting people the 'normal' way, meetUp, etc.)
While average looking guys like me are quick to get riled up by stuff like this how is it different to how guys would behave? If an unattractive girl messaged (maybe overweight, maybe just not pretty) you would likely ignore as well.
The only difference I think there is seems to be females generally have a much higher standard in mind. The height thing instantly is one of those criteria that can end a guys chances, and I'm sure it's been shown girls pretty much ignore anyone under 6 foot or in the high 5's, which is pretty harsh, especially when the woman in question is like 5'2! A lot of guys would be happy with a much more average looking female than the reverse, us guys just have lower standards! However I don't think there's anything too weird here. Plenty of women just want sex, just the same as guys, so someone highly attractive to them offering it is all they need to go ahead.
The only difference I think there is seems to be females generally have a much higher standard in mind. The height thing instantly is one of those criteria that can end a guys chances, and I'm sure it's been shown girls pretty much ignore anyone under 6 foot or in the high 5's, which is pretty harsh, especially when the woman in question is like 5'2! A lot of guys would be happy with a much more average looking female than the reverse, us guys just have lower standards! However I don't think there's anything too weird here. Plenty of women just want sex, just the same as guys, so someone highly attractive to them offering it is all they need to go ahead.
You can't do that study. Those same girls are never matching with an unattractive guy. You couldn't even have the conversation if you wanted to.
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