Sorry, I should have highlighted what I was arguing against. You said it was a
"A useful crutch that mostly helps bad players", which is what I was disagreeing with. I think it helps good players just as well (in fact it could be made a case it helps more good players because a bad player won't be playing attention to them in the first place =P).
I agree that you shouldn't plan your game around it in a duty finder party.
I guess I've been fortunate that all the duty finder parties I've been in have been populated with people who pretty much look at what everyone is doing and all sort of fall into place with each other. I'm the tank, and sometimes from the GAF FC I'll take a DPS or two. I usually have to DF the healer because damn are we short on healers in GAF FC right now.
In general, I just make sure people understand that as the tank, I'll pull the group. I'll Tomahawk the mob I want killed first, and the DPS generally realize that the only mob with the red name is the one to attack. The mage(s) then proceed to sleep the mobs with yellow names. When the mob I'm hitting is about to die, I'll move to the one I want killed next and wake it from sleep. The DPS will generally see which one I'm hitting and move to it when the first one is dead. Meanwhile the healer is, uh, healing.
This seems to work just fine in the DF parties I've been in. People figure out pretty quickly what's going on and just do it without a bunch of chatting or arguing, and I never mark targets for kill order in DF parties. It just works.
If additional groups add, I usually switch to Overpower spamming to hold all the extra mobs. At this point methodical sleep-and-kill goes out the window, we all just start AoEing the shit out of everything until it's dead. As long as I keep the OP spam up, the healer can spamheal me and won't pull anything off me. If I burn my TP too fast this way, I'll use Flash to hold them until they are all dead.
