My point is, anyone that considers Israel to be their home is going to justify military action and they're not completely baseless for doing so.
Of course. Nobody's really saying that an Israeli citizen cannot attempt to justify some sort of military action against missiles landing in their cities, nor that they're completely baseless for doing so. "Israel has the right to defend itself", and all that. That statement itself is not in question.
But some scales of military action, like what we're seeing right now in Gaza, are near-impossible to justify, and some of the reasoning (like implying that missiles being stored in hospitals and UN schools is a good reason to bomb them and kill refugees and UN workers) is close to baseless.
And it's the USES of "Israel has the right to defend itself" after every bombing, every dead cluster of civilians, that is being attacked. "Israel has the right to defend itself" can't be used to justify every single act against the Palestinians, but it's used as a catch-all anyways. stretched well beyond any sort of reasonable breaking point. To where we can also say that Palestinians also have the right to defend themselves, and we wouldn't be wrong. Because right now, Israel is VERY much on the offensive.
The current Government's goals you mean. Can't they see that a strong Secular Government is exactly the kind of ally (sounds crazy i know) they would need? Think of it this way. If a future free Palestine is so entwined with Israel's own economy I HIGHLY doubt the people in charge would brook any terrorist acts or anything of the nature to happen (excluding the stupid actions of a few) to jeopardize their economic ties.
Listen. I feel historically the issues Israel had as a State over the years. But you have to take a look at the other side of the coin as well. If you don't your looking down the brutality barrel towards destruction for both sides! Cultivate the Palestinians! Make them depend on you economically not through embargoes! And that will give you the legitimacy to actually persecute (very harshly) those like that to blow themselves up or attack innocent Israelis.
The major issue with this idea is: why would the Palestinians EVER want to depend on Israel in ANY way after what's been happening in Gaza? There is no trust. There NEEDS to be a third party involved in this.